Land of broken toys

I’m reluctant to write this but I think I’ve seen enough of it that I need to get it out in the world.

I feel like we live in a land of broken toys.

What I mean by that is, I feel like a lot of people in this world are broken. Not completely but to a point that it effects their lives. I more so see it in my generation and younger. Sadly I’m considered a millennial, though I do not believe I live up to the stereotype at all. What I’ve found with so many people my age and younger is they seem to be broken on some level.

Normally I would chalk it up to relationships, they had a really bad one and now they can’t function. They try to date someone new and can’t because of stuff from the past. I understand, we all gotta heal and most have had a bad relationship somewhere in their life.

But what bothers me in all this is that, at some point you have to face the fear. At some point you have to accept that you could get hurt again. And that’s okay.

I’m finding that many people my age or younger, can’t accept that fact.

I fear what future that brings us. I see so many people my age staying single or just dating around. The ones that do find someone, never get married or have kids.

Call me old fashioned but this isn’t normal.

There is a lot going on here as to why this is happening and I won’t get into that.

I’m writing this as hope. Hope that their are others out there, and I know there is, that are willing to accept that things have happened. That it’s not going to be easy but it’s going to get better through failing. That through those failures you’ll become better.

Failure on all levels in life, is so dramatically looked down upon in western culture for some reason. You will fail. This is life. It’s about trying not to fail, learning from failures and always getting better. This is especially true in relationships.

I’ll leave you with this. Acceptance is everything in life. If you feel broken now, it’s okay. But don’t restrict your life because of that. Go out and keep trying. Keep failing. Eventually you will find what you’re looking for.

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Change of course

So, for one, I’ve been horrible at updating this. Being honest, I think most blog owners are. Few are posting every week or even every month let alone everyday. I thought about shutting it down. I thought about just making it a place for me to post code related stuff. I thought about doing a purge again and restarting.

Here is what I decided….

  • I’m going to narrow the focus some more
  • I’m going to try and post EVERY single day – (Thanks Seth Godin)
  • I’m going to try to provide value for others but mostly I’m posting what matters to me
  • I will likely move a lot of posts into a new category of “old posts”

I think this is what it’s going to look like content wise…

  • It’s going to be about my thoughts on life, book reviews, and code.
  • Maybe on a rare occasion, about some product that I like.

I should note that after this post I’m going to update a few things right off the bat, like the resources page, as things have changed. Also, to keep in line with posting everyday, I’m going to start with my first post in this journey.

***Edit, I’ve mostly given up social media. I’m not on there anymore and I’m mostly keeping the accounts for the sake of, if I ever change my mind.***

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