This is something I think will help others so I thought I should post it. Maybe it will help someone.
I think everyone at some point feels trapped because they don’t know where they are going. They have this big goal way out there but its just mush. Here is an example, say you want to be a millionaire. But what is that?
How do you get there?
How long do you plan it to take?
Will you be happy when you get there? Or on the way there?
You see my point. The hows are a tricky thing and you have to be careful with them but they are a very important component. You can’t except all the hows to work out but you can expect to meet your goal if you just stay focused on that and keep reworking the hows as time goes on.
The analogy I used the other day for finding your path to your goal, was this…
Your goal is like you’re going somewhere on a map. Say I’m in New York, NY. I want to go to Los Angeles, CA. That is a clear defined goal. What helps is when you say, you will get there by a commercial jet. That is the how.
Now lets flip that, and do a less clear path….
You’re in New York, NY and you want to somewhere out west but you’re not sure where that is.
This is the primary example of saying, I want to be a millionaire or whatever it is, without clearly defining it and defining the how. Goals and direction in life is like using GPS in your car. You know where you are, you know where you’re headed, and you know how you’re getting there.
In the case of the millionaire goal again, its broken down like this…
Where are you now?
How long do you want to take to get there?
What does being a millionaire mean to you?
What is the end game, become a millionaire and retire?
I think of this like, walking, running, horseback, car, jet. Each one has a component of speed but there is a time and cost factor to each one. For example, the jet would be the fastest and preferred method for most but there is a huge cost factor and in this case that cost factor might be giving up everything that matters to you in life, or extreme levels of stress, to get to your goal using the fastest method possible. Or to counter act that, to walk, it would take you a long time, significantly longer than taking a jet, but you get there. Likely not so stressed or having to give up much from life in general as your cost factor.
Every time I think about goals and direction in life, I think about it like a map. I’m here, I want to be there, how do I do it and how long will it take me? Goals without a deadline are just dreams and setting timelines with an expected outcome is about as perfect as you can get.
This is not to say, that this is full proof and you’ll always reach your goals with this methodology, although you are significantly more likely. Life happens, goals and directions change. I’m the biggest example of that. Someday I’ll dive into that. If the how changes, so what? If the goal changes, no big deal. You do you. You get what you want from life and purse your dreams. This isn’t meant to be treated as definitive but it is used to be treated how to relax and figure everything out. Something I’ve been doing for years and up until recently lost touch with this methodology.
This is a question, I think needs to be asked a lot.
What do you want?
What do you want from life?
What matters to you?
Do you want happiness? What does that look like?
Some of the common responses to this are:
Marriage, a good one, both are happy
Success in life
And the list could go on and on….
I think its important to define it, and be specific. If you want that relationship then understanding who that person is that you want, is highly important.
For success, it’s the same. It’s defining, the what. What does that look like. How do you get there. Who are your customers, where do they come from, what do they want?
Maybe you can see a pattern. Its all about knowing. Spending time to define it. Think about it. Write it down. Discuss it. Go after it.
Don’t know what you want?
Simple, go live life. Try new things. As for business, try new marketing methods, join new business networks, talk to other businesses. It’s all about growth. Only way to grow is to reach for the stars, just like plants. You gotta go out and see what you do want and what you don’t. This kind of touches the concept of inversion. Learning what you don’t want is a key process to finding what you do want.
Overall the point of this post is to say, define what you want in life. That is 80% of the challenge. If you can’t define it, you will have a hard time reaching it. Just like sailing a ship from Europe to the US. If you don’t know how to get to the US, or you don’t have much direction, or even where your end point is, you might spend the rest of your life in the ocean.